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It’s Your Life, You Decide


This is YOUR LIFE. Plain and simple. YOU DECIDE how it’s gonna be.

What kind of person are you? How do you handle emotions? How do you treat the people around you?

Rewind for a minute, back to elementary school (ohmygod, you’re so old). Okay, seriously…Was there a kid that was considered the “token” bully? The kid who always tried to be intimidating…always sneered at teachers or always had some damn sarcastic something coming out of their mouth? Unfortunately, most every school has one or more. Maybe that person was picking on you…or maybe that person was you. But I have to tell you, that there are options other than the “bully” and the “bullied”. You can be the one who sees. Here comes the metaphor 😉 —->You can be the one who sees the trees for who they are, inside, and why they act that way on the outside. But you also see the forest around those trees; you see how it has affected them and you see how it is affected by them. Look at you! Thinking deep and rising above 😉

What I mean by this is…

Sometimes people act like D-bags (bullies). And instead of considering why they may be doing that, we immediately react: “Dude, that guy sucks! Why do they have to act like that? Somebody needs to kick their…” …and so on…But you asked the right question, WHY do they act like that?

And here is where the cycle starts:

You will never ever truly know Everything that is going on in a person’s life.

Check it out:

Studies have shown that victims of bullying have displayed certain responsive characteristics, like: 

Low Self-esteem

Difficulty Trusting Others


Difficulty Controlling Anger

The thing is, these are also characteristics of a “bully”. Coincidence? Nothing is coincidence, guys, this is a cycle. Sometimes when a person has been negatively affected or mistreated by another (whether it be their parents, siblings or friends) or they have pent-up emotions that they aren’t sure how to deal with, it all comes out in the form of “bullying”.

Now, this doesn’t mean that it’s totally okay for people to be D-bags; I’m telling you this so that you can protect yourself from ever being bullied or becoming a “bully”. Because if you should allow yourself to be the “bully” or the bullied, the cycle says that you may be more likely to find yourself in an abusive dating relationship. Don’t let that nasty cycle get to you, You are a See-er!

Comment below and tell us, have you been bullied? Or caught yourself in the act of “bullying”?

If you’re not sure, here are some things that may have been happening:

Physical Bullying: hitting, kicking, pinching, spitting, damaging property etc.

Verbal Bullying: name calling, insulting, racist or homophobic jokes, sexually suggestive comments etc.

Cyber Bullying: basically any type of verbal bullying, through e-mail, texting, phone calls, social media etc.

Or even Indirect Bullying: spreading rumors or nasty gossip, exclusion from social groups etc.

If you are being bullied, and you’re not sure what to do:

1. Remember, you are a see-er. Clearly that guy has issues, and they don’t have to be yours.

2. You can choose to laugh it off, walk away or speak your mind in a clear, logical, concise manner that tells them that their issues aren’t your problem. BUT DON’T BE A D-BAG!

3. Let an adult know that so-and-so is clearly going through some things and they’re taking it out on other folks. Hopefully, that adult can help you and so-and-so.

4. Just keep your distance. It’s not cowardly to choose not to be in that person’s company; you have better places to be and better energy to absorb.

5. Keep your passwords to social media and online outlets to yourself. Plus, nobody needs to know about the word-sandwich you created using you and your cat’s names…just keep that one 😉

So, take care of yourself…and other people. After all, we all kinda live in the same forest.

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